Changing abortion's pronoun
'We had abortions,' say men whose lovers ended pregnancies. It isn't just a women's trauma, they insist. But critics see a political calculation.
By Stephanie Simon, Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
January 7, 2008

SAN FRANCISCO -- Jason Baier talks often to the little boy he calls Jamie. He imagines this boy -- his son -- with blond hair and green eyes, chubby cheeks, a sweet smile.

But he'll never know for sure.

His fiancee's sister told him about the abortion after it was over. Baier remembers that he cried.

The next weeks and months go black. He knows he drank far too much. He and his fiancee fought until they broke up. "I hated the world," he said.Baier, 36, still longs for the child who might have been, with an intensity that bewilders him: "How can I miss something I never even held?" the rest